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Overcoming rejection is one of the hardest things for a person to face. What most girls don’t understand is that it takes a lot of courage to ask one of them out. When they are polite and are nice about saying no that’s one thing. But, when they laugh as if you weren’t worthy of them, that’s quite another thing. This article will walk you through overcoming rejection.
An alpha male will walk into a bar confident that he will go home with one of the lovely ladies there. And he does. He plunges right into the scene and soon all of the girls are flocking around him. He seems to have his choice of dates.
You, on the other hand, sit in the shadows nursing a beer. You survey the scene. After you have some liquid courage in you, you approach a woman. She says she’s not interested. Perhaps she even laughs. Then you either go back to your corner or leave the bar.
What makes the alpha male so different and what can you learn from him about overcoming rejection.
First of all, the alpha male may face rejection five, six, or seven times that night, but he plunges on ahead. He doesn’t sit in the corners, he’s at the middle of the crowd. If he sees a woman he likes, he toys with her. He’s the bad boy every girl wants.
If one girl says no to him, he drops her and pursues another. He’s confident that one of the lovelies will be in his bed that evening.
The secret here is that he is overcoming rejection all night long. He doesn’t take it personally. In fact, he’s so sure of himself that if a woman says no, that’s her loss.
Now, one of the personality traits of this alpha male is that he’s pretty self centered. His relationships don’t tend to last long. But he doesn’t care because there are lots of other beautiful fish in the sea.
You, on the other hand, are a more sensitive soul. While in the short term, you would like a girl to go home with you, what you really want is a long term relationship. That is why each rejection stings so badly. You are not looking for a dozen women in your life, you just want to find one special one.
But in order to find her, you are going to have to ask many women out. Embrace rejection, don’t try to overcome it. Don’t fixate on one woman – whether it is in a bar or in your life at large. Be confident and approach a number of women. Until you have a woman who is interested enough in you to be your full time girlfriend, you should be keeping your eyes out for all possibilities.
The best way to go about overcoming rejection is to embrace it.